Do you know that Einstein quote, where he says that there are only two ways to live: as though nothing were a miracle, or as though everything were?
Do you get the point he’s making? It’s not religious. It’s not necessarily even spiritual. It’s about perspective, mindset and wholehearted courage.
Think about this for a moment:
You can live a reactive life or a creative life.
You can be an amateur or a pro.
You can choose the same old shit, or crazy new shit.
You can perceive yourself as a prisoner of your past, or you can consciously create your present and future.
You can feel like everything is happening to you, constantly confirming your deepest fears about yourself, or you can choose what you make things mean.
You can be in control or in love — but as with all of these, you cannot be in both states at the same time.
So if you find yourself at a fork in the road, sick of feeling trapped in old, familiar, self-defeating patterns, pause for a moment and ask yourself:
Is this what I want?
A life rooted in a fear-based mindset will be a life of attack, blame, near constant anxiety, competition, numbing out, betrayal, scarcity, distrust, jealousy, feeling unsafe comparison, not belonging, resistance, stagnation and a blanket of low level depression.
Unlearning this mindset takes work, but it is worth it. It will lead to a life of trust, acceptance, curiosity, fulfilment, purpose, playfulness, humility, courage, authenticity, significance, vulnerability, creativity and intimacy.
THIS is what I think Einstein meant when he said that you can live as if nothing is a miracle, or as if everything is.
Although deceptively simple, the choice about which mindset to adopt present a true fork in the road.
The two choices (and there really are only two) lead to two completely opposite lives, perhaps not in form but in content.
The first — the mindset that we learned over time — leads to a fear-based, suspicious-at-best-vicious-at-worst nightmare, perceiving a world that is hostile, cold and menacing.
The second — a mindset most of us had innately as children until it was conditioned or wounded out of us, which we have to return to and relearn as adults — creates the kind of life where it is worth daring to trust, where failures contain lessons, where nothing can make you feel anything without your consent, where it is worth risking being hurt in order to be fully alive.
Through this lens, fear in any form — anxiety, uncertainty, worry, being scared or stress — becomes a teacher, a compass and a bringer of invaluable information.
Through this lens, you transform. You start to see things differently and do things differently.
Changing your perspective and doing the tough inner work to change your mindset and your relationship towards fear, uncertainty and doubt is genuinely life-changing.
It will permanently alter your life from the inside out.
Not everyone is ready.
Change means changing. You have to be willing to think, perceive and do things differently.
If you want to take a step, start with this. I put hours into it, and it will help.
And at some point, if you feel ready to take a powerful, life-changing step, this might be it.